Updated: Nov 2, 2021
Being close to the one you love is everything. Had a bad day at work? Their smile can cast away your dark clouds!
Mutual commitment and support for each other's dreams and goals, as proof of your proclaimed love, can be one of the most fulfilling things to experience. Unfortunately, distance can be quite the thorn in your side.
Many years ago, couples distanced from one another would communicate through letter writing as they both looked forward to and anticipated the day of their reunion. Today, we have applications like Zoom, Skype and FaceTime that allow for face-to-face audiovisual communication. People have become quite creative and have had virtual dates using these applications, all in the name of staying in touch with one another, fighting the possibility of being out of touch.
Preparing to live together in the UK
While modern forms of communication help couples to feel more connected to each other, it is important that people in long-distance relationships have frank conversations about important matters to ensure they are on the same page. For example, what happens when celebrating birthdays, wedding anniversaries and days that are unique and important to the couple? While this may seem trivial at first, it's important to remember that the 'small things' add up. For instance, it's more expensive to buy gifts for one another, as shipping costs must be considered for gifts to be delivered. Sometimes, just sending an electronic card may not feel enough.
Issues of trust can also creep in, as a result of not physically being with each other. It's not uncommon to hear about people in long-distance relationships feeling insecure and having doubts about their loved one remaining faithful. These are all potential and valid risks that come with trying to sustain a long-distance relationship.
Spouses living apart
In a more specific context, how are married people who have spouses outside the UK coping?
Immigration law creates hurdles that couples must jump over. One of the requirements to be met, is proof of at least £18,600 in earnings. Following the coronavirus pandemic, a lot of job cuts and furloughs have taken place. This has had a crippling impact on income, making it difficult for spouse visa holders to reunite with their partners in the UK. There is also the added headache of taking care of two households. Many people in this situation are required to look after their spouse and children in other countries. This is a further increase in cost.
Some spouses have had their visas withheld at embassies amidst the pandemic without information concerning their approval or denial. This makes the dream of a reunion quite daunting.
At the end of the day, the heart wants what the heart wants! However, it's helpful to think through the practicalities of distanced love and seek help to work through your options, if necessary. We are here to help if you need us! Contact us for more information.
You can also download our free pre-visa checklist to help you stay organised.